Communication is the foundation of every relationship or marriage. The height of every building is determined by the strength of the foundation. For example, the foundation required for building a sky-scraper is different from the foundation required for building a bungalow. In the same vein, the longevity and the durability of a relationship is determined by the level of communication in the relationship. There are several dimensions to communication in a relationship, today, we will discuss one and discuss others subsequently.
WORDS; Words are very powerful, it either build or destroys. Words are like egg, when an egg is broken, it cannot be put together again. In the same vein, when words are spoken, it cannot be drawn back. There are two kinds of words, namely; Constructive and destructive words. Constructive words builds while destructive words destroys. Destructive words should not be used in a relationship or marriage, rather constructive words should be used always. When your partner is wrong, instead of saying destructive words like; “This is a very stupid thing you have done”, you can say constructive words like; ” Honey, you should have done it this way”. Because the more you say destructive words to him or her, the more terrible him or her will become, but the more you say constructive words to him or her, the more him or her will improve and become a better person, a person to enjoy. Bad and hurtful words don’t change people, it is encouraging words that changes people.
Words are also very powerful because they work with the Spirit. Their is a spiritual force behind every spoken word, to ensure the spoken word is fulfilled, and there is no joke in the Spirit realm. That is why the scriptures says; Life and death are in the power of the tongue~Proverbs18:21. Words are prophetic, every time you speak it into someone’s life, you are prophesying into the person’s life. So, what are you prophesying into his or her life? That is why the scriptures advises us in Colossians 4:6 that we should let our speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that we may know how we ought to answer every man. Every time we speak to our partner, we should be speaking grace. Therefore, there is need to always ask the Holy Spirit to teach us how to speak, especially when their is an important issue to discuss~Isaiah50:4.
That is how far we will go to on the relationship segment of Wisdom Bank, do join us again next week as we continue to discuss the principles of effective communication. But go with this truth; INSTEAD OF RUSHING TO RESPOND TO YOUR PARTNER OVER AN ISSUE, WHY NOT TAKE OUT FEW MINUTES TO ASK GOD TO GIVE YOUR THE RIGHT WORDS. IF GOD SPEAKS THROUGH YOU, YOU WILL SPEAK CONSTRUCTIVE WORDS TO HIM OR HER AND YOU WILL MAKE HIM OR HER A BETTER PERSON… BE WISE..!!!
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